Can first loves affect our lives forever?
Movies, TV shows and books often talk about “high school love” but is that love only seen in Hollywood?
Oftentimes when teenagers fall in love, adults dismiss it as “puppy love,” having a belief of superiority, but whether you are 16 or 60, love is love, no matter the circumstance. We believe teenagers can fall in love just as deeply as adults can, but when they are constantly told they aren’t capable of real love, with popular songs by artists like Paul Anka and Drake promoting that belief, it can be quite discouraging and belittling to the teen.The most vulnerable thing about first love is the fact that you put it all out there but you may not receive it back. The hardest part is knowing you are going to get hurt, but letting yourself get excited anyway. If a group of girls says your boyfriend’s last name when you say his first name, it’s probably time to get out before you get your heart broken.
Morgan Maples ‘26 said, “I have been lucky enough to have had my first love. I fell in love with them because they were such an amazing and genuine person and always made me laugh. It didn’t work out though because at the time we were too immature and wanted different things.”
First loves are unique because they happen during a time of emotional growth and self discovery. Psychologists explain that first loves often feel so intense because it is new and unaffected by previous heartbreak. It is often seen as pure and free from negativity and manipulation that can come with later relationships. Neuroscience also plays a role in these relationships. During first love, dopamine levels, (associated with pleasure and reward) are at an all time high, creating feelings of euphoria and infatuation. Oxytocin, the bonding hormone, creates attachment and intimacy, making the experience feel unique and unforgettable.
Not only do people ignore the feelings of love teenagers have, but they also suppress the feelings that are believed to be exclusive to adults. Countless viral videos online of teenagers parents refusing to take their kids to therapy and telling the teenagers to “Stop being so dramatic” and “You are too young to know what real love feels like”.
Brianna Harwood ‘26 said, “I have had my first love and we are still together today.”
While first loves are often romanticized, they are just a small part of our journey. They may shape us for worse or better, but they don’t define who we are. Every relationship we have helps us grow and move closer to finding “the one.”
Many teen relationships end because they occur in a critical period of personal growth and self-discovery. During adolescence, teens are figuring out who they are, exploring their values and adapting to new social and emotional experiences. This can create challenges in maintaining a long-term commitment as priorities, interests and goals change. Despite their tendency to end, teen relationships are special because they are formative. These relationships leave a lasting impact, shaping how individuals approach future connections and emotional bonds.
First love is so magical because it is raw and vulnerable. It is a reminder of our ability to feel and connect deeply, as well as grow from every experience. Whether it becomes a lifelong bond or just a cherished memory, it shapes the way we view love and relationships for the rest of our lives.
